Is love a mysterious power? Can our feelings and emotions be trusted? What happens when the feeling fades? How can relationships be fostered, nurtured, and maintained in our individualistic society? Dr. Sue Johnson brings a paradigm shifting message about this. She says, “Defining love as a mystery beyond our grasp and control is as toxic to the human species as poison in our water. We must learn to shape our love relationships.” It’s all about connection.
Staying connected is a basic human need, although some may see it as weakness. Actually, the more connected we are, the stronger we are. This book is mostly for couples but it does have something for everyone, no matter what your age, relationship status, gender, or orientation. Dr. Johnson explains the science of love, and it actually just makes sense. And believe me, by being scientific about it, she does not take the romance out of it!
If you are in a good relationship, this book can be affirming and will highlight how your love can be deepened. If you are in a troubled relationship or feeling distant from your partner, finding a therapist who uses Emotionally Focussed Therapy (EFT) can help. Dr. Johnson also has another book which is a self-help manual for couples called Hold Me Tight. ‘Love Sense’ is highly readable and helpful. It will change the way you think about love.
I heard about this author from a friend who is an EFT certified therapist. Thanks Irene!! Have a look at her website, it might be a lifeline!
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Here are some links to more information on EFT and Couples Retreats.